anger management

How do you deal with issues? Do you bottle or do you erupt?
I am an erupter. Russell is a bottler. Hence we have issues. But who doesnt?
I have such a short temper, that the smallest thing can get me so angry. I get "mild" road rage and nearly got Russell beaten up on one occassion. I give people "the look" when Im driving. If someone cuts me off or does something stupid, Ill drive up next to them, JUST to give them "the look". I think I learnt this look off my father :)
As I mentioned in a previous post, Russell and I had an argument on Sunday night. Russell was completely calm the whole time. But it made me so angry! I just wanted him to show a little emotion instead of being so calm. He kept asking why I was getting so snappy at him when he was speaking so calmly. I said its because he was purposely pushing my buttons to make me snap.
This is an issue I think I need to deal with. Ive always thought it better to get things out rather than bottle them up.
Dad preached at church one night about anger and he said that people who bottle up, when they finally explode, the damage is more severe. But that doesnt necessarily mean that having little ourbursts all the time is the way to go. God's anger builds up. Take the Israelites for example, God was patient, but his anger was slowly building, until it was unleashed on the Israelites, and how damaging was that for them? Separated and lead off as captives! This doesnt mean he is out to destroy us, but...I dont know, maybe this is a whole other topic.
Hence, I have started to pray for self-control. I need self-control in many aspects of my life, but at the moment Im dealing with my anger issue. Maybe I need to sign up for anger management!